Okay, I should have written this yesterday because today is Day 10. I might failed yesterday but hey, it’s not the end for me. I still have 20 more days to go!
My favorite love quote is
“There’s no substitute for a great love who says, ‘No matter what’s wrong with you, you’re welcome at this table.'”
— Tom Hanks
It’s easy for us to love anyone who is nice and easy to go along with. But what if as the time passes by we discover more and more weaknesses from the person we love? What if we discover bad habits? What if the person you love become depressed that it affects every aspect of his/her life including your relationship? What if his/her attitude changed which is different from the person you have loved from the start. What if he/she cheated on you? What if he/she becomes ill? Will you continue to love? Will you stay?
The songs say “Love yourself” and “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all”. It makes me think, is it love? What is love really? Does love has condition?
I am an emotional person and it’s easy for me to get upset when my husband say something that hurts me. I say to myself, “how can he say that? He doesn’t think of what I feel”. Sometimes I think of not talking to him for a week, but it doesn’t happen because I ask myself “Is this how I suppose to love?.” When I tell him how I feel it always ends up in drama, which I will write about some other time.
Loving is not easy. If you just honestly ask yourself, maybe you will find it out for yourself if you really have the capacity to love. In relationships, sometimes we look for things that are missing, we think we would find it from another person, it could be attitude, wealth, it could be anything. When we find a new relationship, we will again realize that something is missing.
I realized as I’m writing this blog, that we have to accept that people are different. And I guess that’s the importance of knowing a person first before jumping in a relationship. It’s always smooth sailing in the beginning, but the water will always get rough eventually and your love will be tested.
I believe love is sticking out for the person even if it’s difficult and inconvenient. For me love is more than loving yourself, ever forgiving and sacrificing, for me love always bear hardship and never gives up.
I don’t know if there is anyone who can love like this aside from God. When I ask myself if I really know how to love. It’s hard to answer. Honestly, I feel like I can’t love that unselfishly. If my husband cheats on me, I would probably walk awayand not give him any chance. I have the tendency to be self-centered, but when I think of what really love is, it changes my heart.
How about you? What do you think about this quote? What is great love for you?
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